“Do you get any bites?”

My leg had been itching so my thought was, “Yeah, I think I got a mosquito bite behind my knee”.

Except that would have been my perspective, and that wouldn’t be within her character to be talking about. In a flash of a second, I realized she was asking me about my home being on the market.

“Two people looked at it so far,” I answered.

That was a far cry from my perspective, because I actually really like living here and may not even sell if the right buyer comes along.

Yet she wouldn’t know my perspective, because you might be the first person I’ve told that, too, unless I’ve shared that sentiment with my girlfriend. I don’t remember.

From her perspective, the “for sale” sign is prominent right on the corner, and everyone driving by in the neighborhood sees it vividly.

The point for effective communication and relationships is, as they say, to “get out of your head and into the head of your prospects” (or your girlfriend/boyfriend, parent/family member, friend, associate – neighbor) – and relate to them from their perspective.

Because most people are so within themselves, they don’t take the time to consider that, for example, you may not know what he/she is talking about.

For example, when you heard Joan ask whether I got any bites, you probably had no clue what she was talking about. I mentioned I had been walking by the creek so you may have thought she was talking about catching fish. Or I said she had a dog, although it wouldn’t make sense for her to ask whether I had been bitten by any dogs lately.

It’s important to keep this issue of the other person’s perspective in mind, because most people can’t see past it and take for granted, even, that you share the same perspective.

My girlfriend is typical in this, especially with close, intimate relationships. Sometimes she has said, “You mean you can’t read my mind?” when she realizes that, that moment at least, I was not in her perspective and didn’t know what she was talking about.

Yesterday, too, around the same point on the path, I was talking with Paul, who’s perspective politically was on the more progressive end of the spectrum. He automatically thought I shared that perspective, because it was his, and he projected it outward on me, as well.

So do your best to remember that most people do that.

They take it for granted that you’re like them, and know what they’re talking about as well as agree with where they’re coming from on the issue.

And when you’re talking with them, remember they will interpret what you’re saying – from their perspective, so anything you realize is dependent on your perspective, you’re then able to clarify and explain so they can understand it as part of their perspective.

….Did you get any bites from this?

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If you’re like many people, you feel like that first cup – or pot! – of coffee is a life-saver in the morning, especially if you’re getting up earlier than you’d like.

Well the guy who was the station manager back when I was the public affairs director at WSUW (that was before I began my newspaper career), he has are more harrowing story to tell, where coffee may have quite literally saved his life!

I’ll use his old air name, because he’s out of the limelight now and may not want his name in print.

Steve Owens had an appointment to meet with his mother-in-law for lunch while his wife was away for business in Singapore.

Instead of going directly to meet her, he stopped for a beverage at a Starbuck’s along the way, delaying him he estimates 15 minutes.

Steve’s quite thankful he stopped because ahead on the highway, about where he would have been if he hadn’t stopped for a jolt of energy – he may have been quite literally melted by a far more powerful burst of energy!

Because ahead on the highway, a truck driver flipped his gas tanker, causing a massive fireball which was so powerful it damaged a bridge and cell phone tower and melted several cars.

The truck driver was cited for speeding and making an unsafe lane change.

Steve had not planned on stopping for coffee although he said he had an overwhelming urge to get a Starbucks’ coffee.

Because he listened to his intuition, he may very well have saved his life.

This is of course a more dramatic example of how important it is to pay attention to your inner guidance and hunches or strong feelings.

Most of the time you’ll never know what might have happened if you continued going in the direction you were heading. Something wonderful may happen because you followed your gut feeling about something. Or something unpleasant may have been avoided. Or something you see or hear may inspire you in an important way or you may run into or think of an important contact or old friend.

Napoleon Hill talks about developing your Sixth Sense in “Think and Grow Rich” – it’s actually so important it’s a separate chapter (see Chapter 14, starting on Page 206 of the “Think and Grow Rich Manuscript & Video Course”). Also the importance of having Faith (see Chapter 3, Page 72) and trusting that the intuitive feelings are really inspired nudges important to your well-being and success in some way – as well as knowing the difference between “noise” or limiting beliefs and your intuition.

I’m grateful Steve has learned to trust that “still, small voice” that we all have within us.

How well are you trusting it? How aware are you of the way it guides you along the shortest and most direct path to fulfilling your Burning Desire? How careful are you to distinguish between intuitive hits and the common noise or talk from the restless ego most people have attempting to drown out that “still, small voice” meant to help them?

Let’s talk about these things in the “Think And Grow Rich Mastermind” and be sure to share the hunches you acted upon and what effect that had on you.

Warmly,

Dan Klatt,
“Think And Grow Rich Guy”
Founder of the CarnegieCentre,
President of the Internet Marketing Organization

….Serving as Your WealthSensei!

This is an interesting post, not for your personal growth or to better yourself, at least in the traditional sense.

Just seeing the title of the link of this article/column and you’ll get the gist of it:

http://www.ktradionetwork.com/2010/01/08/inverted-body-scanners-show-naked-body-in-full-living-color/

It “bares” looking at (I know, that initially was an unintended pun, although after I realized what I said, I decided not to “take off” the quotes… or ’screen’ my comments

To “strip it down”…

Looks like the airport screeners, the TSA employees in a back room checking you out – in all your living glory – are being paid very well to look at nude pictures all day…. because they’re seeing everything.

It’s interesting to talk about because it forces us to think about how comfortable we are “posing” for people in the back room, as well as caring or not caring what they potentially could be doing with these “well-exposed” images of us.

Do you want someone snapping your picture as you’re walking through security and posting it on the Internet, so your posterior is there for posterity?

I’m not saying that will happen. I’m just saying we have no way of knowing what happens with our unauthorized “paparazzi” nude image.

This issue also gives us pause to reflect upon the issue of nudity, our bodies, and the whole “sex is sin” morays that have been used since the dark ages to control people. (Or if you don’t want to go there, then just think about what could be more natural than going through the airport exactly as you came into the world, completely naked!)

In other words, you had to be taught to associate nudity with shame or shyness or whatever associations you may have. I’m not meaning to imply these things are good or bad, just that they are. Most likely “they” will be able to sweep this under the rug and keep most people unaware someone is seeing their full-monty and very few will be the wiser. (And these greater issues will not come to the surface, so to speak.)

However, you and I would benefit from looking at them for ourselves.

For example my first thought was “I don’t care whether someone sees me naked, although I’m not sure I want some guy gawking at my girlfriend naked” when we’re traveling together.

Although at the same time, I have previously raised the issue of us going to a nude beach together, just to see what she would think of that.

That idea of a nude beach, where people have the choice to go or not, and in most cases whether they go bare, and how much, may be the solution to the airport “runway show”.

How about if they show what the person in the back room sees – up front and personal – for everyone going through that checkpoint to see?

Or, what if we take that a step further, so when we step out of our shoes, we also remove all our clothing – and have the TSA people nude, as well, so we’re all on equal footing?

(I’m kind of playing. And kind of serving as the agitator, to bring up important societal issues, which address the core of why post people do not enjoy the success and happiness then deserve and would otherwise have – self-esteem.)

In other words, the whole “beauty myth” obsession that gets so many people hung up on their appearances and ashamed of themselves when they feel they don’t measure up to the expected ideal people who buy into the beauty myth have.

That’s a HUGE thing for people to come to terms with (and let go of and blow right past that expectation).

Can you imagine the day when you walk up on stage and proclaim: “I stand before you, completely with no masks, bathing in all my glory and beauty – feeling confident and secure.”

And everyone cheers and applauds because you’re comfortable in your own skin.

That would be something worth seriously thinking about – and manifesting!

Warmly,

Dan Klatt,
“Think And Grow Rich Guy”
Founder of the CarnegieCentre,
President of the Internet Marketing Organization

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There I was, hungry and ready to eat – now!

Which was why I decided to use the microwave instead of the toaster oven, because that would have taken longer.

When, all of a sudden, I pushed the wrong button. I hit “Time” instead of “Quick On”!

That’s where you have to “manually” enter the full amount. You know, like, “3-0-0″ and “Enter” – all that work… and time away from the fulfillment of my ever need… the hot, juicy, mouth-watering pizza being in my hand and in my mouth, fast!!!

The Quick On button was what I had meant to hit, which would have saved me like 2.5 whole seconds, which in Pizza Time seems like an eternity.

That would have been where after hitting “Quick On” I just would have pressed “3″ and it would go for 3 minutes and shut off.

For about three-fourths of a second I looked at the display and “What to do?” ran through my mind….

“Do I hit cancel and then go back and hit the Quick-On button? Or I’m already here, I guess it won’t be so bad to type in the full time manually (I PROBABLY won’t die of starvation having to wait that extra 1.5 seconds!)”

Can you believe that? I actually had to use critical thinking to heat my pizza!?

What’s this world coming to when you have to make an important decision before you can have your instant food done in an instant?

Well… my three minutes are up (my pizza’s getting cold, in fact).

Go ahead and mull that over.

…While I’m eating!

Warmly,

Dan Klatt,
“Think And Grow Rich Guy”
Founder of the CarnegieCentre and
President of the Internet Marketing Organization

….Serving as Your WealthSensei!

Resources:

- The best way to learn patience…. Huh?!

Do you really want to buy a product purporting to teach patience from someone who can’t even wait an extra second and a half before heating up his pizza in the microwave?

I don’t have any way of helping you learn patience. In fact, left me know if you know of one!

A friend from Australia knew I call Sedona Arizona my home and he was concerned I may have been involved in the recent sweat lodge ceremony in Sedona that left 2 dead and a number of others ill.

If you’re unfamiliar with a sweat lodge, it’s a Native American tradition often used in shamanic circles.

The facilitator builds a small enclosure similar to a teepee or wigwam centered around a pit with hot rocks over a fire. In the sweat lodge I did shortly after moving to Sedona in 1999, there were maybe 16 of us in this small space, and it was “excruciatingly intense” – meaning the heat, the feeling of being baked, the discomfort.

I don’t know for sure what’s supposed to be going on when you do one, although I think it’s meant to purify a person, let the body “sweat it out” – sweat out the toxins, release negative energy… I believe it’s a purification ritual.

Who knows whether any of that happened. For me…. it was damn hot!!!!

(I didn’t enjoy the experience. Although I am glad I went through it – once.)

As I told my friend Tristan

in Australia, it was similar to fire-walking, where you do it not because it’s fun. You do it because it puts you in extreme physical conditions – to go through it and build character. Like running a marathon to overcome a difficult challenge.

For what it makes you.

The key to surviving being “roasted in the fire”, as the sweat lodge felt like to me, was focus.

I got through it with no scathing burns and probably just red skin and a lot of sweat, by putting all my attention (which I knew intuitively to do) on the image I “saw” before me in my mind of a red rose. By keeping that the focal point, I wasn’t giving my attention to the heat, the discomfort, the little voice that was screaming ‘Are you crazy, this is HOTTTT!”

And I endured through it until the leader said it was time to diminish the “torture” and let us out. (We could leave anytime we wanted, and a few people did exit early.

Can you relate to going through something extremely difficult that tested your limits – and seeing it through as a better person? I bet you can because that’s what going through any life challenge can and will do for you when you have that mindset that “I’m going to learn and grow and become a better person by having gone through this.

Warmly,

Dan Klatt,
“Think and Grow Rich Guy”
Founder of the Carnegie Centre,
President of the Internet Marketing Organization

….Serving as Your WealthSensei!

My friend Jason was really influenced by Jim Rohn, and in this great blog post, he shares the sage advice that meant a great deal to him.

Click on that link and read his post.

I replied to it, with this:

Thanks for inspiring me with this wisdom, both yours and his. I forwarded your link to a client, asking him which section was most meaningful to him.

For me it was “Wishing”, the point about being a successful person to attract success, rather than striving for it or chasing it. ‘

Thanks much! Warmly, Dan

What inspired you the most from Jim Rohn and Jason Fladlien’s wisdom?

How will you act on that inspiration?

I’m going to set aside the time I’ve wanted to spend each day on becoming a better copywriter. This will be through my CopyU.org or CopyU.org sites. (Join me if you share that goal or desire that you’ve known you need to improve, as well.)

Because as great as my Think and Grow Rich wisdom and trainings are, I know I can benefit from presenting them in a way that hits more people the right way, allowing me to fulfill my dharma (life purpose) that much more effectively.

Another tangible action I’m going to do is make it a higher priority to continue my own studies, also every day. I’m going through “Talks with Ramana Maharshi” and the last two days did not take the time to do my daily reading because my work day was compressed while my girlfriend was staying here. (I don’t mean to make an excuse. She went back to her house and realistically I know I could have carved out the time while she was hear. Also, related to that, to take less time for movies or the few favorite TV shows, like Monk, Star Trek, South Park, Merlin. And to spend less time looking for new marketing materials and products to buy and more time to learn from the ones I already bought.

How about you?!

Warmly,

Dan Klatt,

“Think And Grow Rich Guy”

Founder of the CarnegieCentre,

President of the Internet Marketing Organization

2. They don’t know how to earn money from what they have going for them.

3. They don’t know how to access the people who will pay them.

A strange thought occurred to me.

I was looking out the front doors windows to see whether it looked like it may rain. The windows have blinds that are closed to keep it cooler in the Arizona summer sun.

When I stepped on a pebble or something that I wanted to throw away, yet the waste basket was at a diagonal that would require me to walk around my long couch and the love seat perpendicular to it.

The thought came to mind that it would be more direct to just walk right over the couch, instead of around it.

Yet I didn’t want to do that, for obvious reasons – because the couch is an obstacle in my way that could trip me up or cause me to fall and hurt myself if I attempted to climb over it.

(I admit it was tempting for a minute just to do something unusual or unexpected or different.)

The thing is, how many times do we erect our own obstacles and put them so they’re in the way and stand between us and our goals?

Such as any number of distractions (e-mail is the big one, maybe it’s Facebook or Twitter or a forum you hang out in, maybe it’s text messaging… what is it for you?)

….Or fears!

For example fear of failing. Or fear of redicule or disapproval/criticism. Or fear of success.

People tend to allow their fears to stand in their way, just like a couch or other obstacle between where they’re at now and where they want to be on their journey.

Although, unlike in my “office”, which others may call a living room/great room – it’s easier to walk around the long couch than to climb over it when it’s standing in the way of where I’m going….

The obstacles people put in their way on their journey toward success they often choose to sit down and stop going forward.

They allow those obstacles to stand in their way and prevent them from succeeding.

Sure, they could just say “Hmm, that’s interesting, I seem to have allowed my fear of ___ to stand in my way and prevent me from succeeding” – where that awareness is how in fact they’ve just walked around that obstacle and put it behind them on their path.

Yet the obstacles are often things we cannot see, even as they’re preventing us (apparently) from moving forward.

Awareness is the spotlight that makes all subtle and hidden obstacles visible to you.

You shine it through introspection, keeping your mind quiet, self-reflection, maybe it’s meditation for you.

Doing what I call “give in and go within”.

What obstacles at least previously were standing in the way of your success and happiness and enjoyment and fulfillment?

Now that you’re aware of them by doing that introspection, they are behind you and no longer an issue.

Alright, I just climbed over my couch, both the front and back of it, both ways. It was fun. I didn’t trip and fall.

And, as it turns out – as with all obstacles we push through – we build character and strength *THROUGH* pushing through and transcending the obstacles we previously allowed to stand in our way and limit or prevent our success.

We build character and become a better person by doing that.

What obstacle are you transcending now!?

Warmly,

Dan Klatt,
“Think And Grow Rich Guy”
Founder of the Carnegie Centre,
President of the Internet Marketing Organization

….Serving as Your WealthSensei!

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- What comes to mind as how I’m best able to help you overcome your obstacles is to learn to master the things you’re focusing on and giving power to.

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